Well, those versions of Spider-Man had their identity revealed constantly, so I don't know what you're really complaining about. However, you have to also understand that this Spider-Man is a Spider-Man who actually exists in a Marvel world, not just by himself, so it's not just going to play out exactly the same as it did for those versions.
Also, a true Spider-Man fan wouldn't have the movie versions as the central depictions, that would be a Spider-Man movie fan, but I don't want to get into that.
You're allowed to not like this character, but not for the wrong reasons. As I said, this is a Spider-Man who exists in a Marvel world, so other Marvel characters will be involved in his story, which is something that the Tobey and Andrew SMs lacked (not their fault, they didn't have the rights).
A big part of SMs character comes from the fact that he exists in a world of other heroes, and that he operates the way he does. So, it was interesting seeing him being thrown into this crazy world. You could imagine that before Civil War, this SM was probably doing all the stuff Tobey and Andrew did, and then we see what happens when he crosses over. And the obvious decision was to have Tony discover him and recruit him, otherwise it wouldn't have worked if there was not Tony connection to the character.
And as for the way the character is in general aside from being in the MCU world, I honestly have to say it's the most accurate depiction of what Stan Lee created when he first thought of "Spider-Man". He's just a kid in highschool (which the other movies stretched a bit), dealing with high schooler problems (which these movies perfectly captured than just being a typical Hollywood love story). I could go on about how much better the MCU interpretation of Spider-Man is, but this really isn't the post for it.